Humans are social animals so we gotta have friends. While there are loners among us, humans still evolved to need the rest of the herd. After all, we're pretty small and weak in comparison to lions and tigers. But, you put a tribe of us together, our advanced brains can accomplish almost anything! Having people as friends benefits the species, so our brains are wired to seek out people to befriend.
I'm a very outgoing person, so, I, of course, love friends. Well, most of the time, because I've been in some pretty bad friendships that could've led to my extinction if I went down their path. In fact, some of my friends from junior high are gunning (literally sometimes) for the Darwin awards. But, if you have good friends, they're valuable and you'll want to keep them. Here's my advice to keep the friends that you love.
Be Grateful for Them
My best friend in high school always picked his girlfriend over his other friends, including me. When he dated girls, I never saw the guy. However, when he was single, he'd call and we'd hang out almost everyday. But, when he got a new girlfriend, it was back to never seeing him. About the fourth time he tried this, I didn't return his calls. He assumed I'd always take him back. He was wrong.
You can't take your friends for granted either, at least if you want to keep them. Most people who love you will give you several chances, but unless they're family (and even then), they have a limit. Make sure you're not using your friends and that you give them the time and attention they deserve, even if it's a text message every now and then or a wall post on Facebook for their birthday.
Save the Drama
It's not for your friends or your mama. Just save it, period. Drama is a huge part of friendships, especially female ones. I used to teach high school and it was amusing seeing which girl stopped talking to which other girl. However, it also created a lot of wasted time and energy. I don't think anyone has ever looked back and wished they put up with more drama.
Even adults can have drama. Some people, of all ages, like to start it and continue it. If you love friends, you'll have to stop the drama. As your friends get older and more mature, they'll have less and less time for you if you're a drama queen.
Cool As A Cucumber
If you want to form lasting friendships, be cool. Few people are truly cool in the sense of being laid back and detached Think of the word cool for awhile. Unless you're a total nerd, at some point in your life, you wanted to be cool. Why? Because most of us value this relaxed mentality in other people. That's why cool is synonymous with popularity.
If you're an uptight person who keeps track of issues, judges others, and gets moody, you won't have many friends. As people grow up and move through life they have less and less time to spend with friends. Consequently, they began to drop friends who are less valuable. If you are cool, you'll always have people wanting your attention and you'll keep the friends you already have.
Conclusion
I hope you found my advice helpful. If you have your own friendship tips, please share them in the comments.
I'm a very outgoing person, so, I, of course, love friends. Well, most of the time, because I've been in some pretty bad friendships that could've led to my extinction if I went down their path. In fact, some of my friends from junior high are gunning (literally sometimes) for the Darwin awards. But, if you have good friends, they're valuable and you'll want to keep them. Here's my advice to keep the friends that you love.
Be Grateful for Them
My best friend in high school always picked his girlfriend over his other friends, including me. When he dated girls, I never saw the guy. However, when he was single, he'd call and we'd hang out almost everyday. But, when he got a new girlfriend, it was back to never seeing him. About the fourth time he tried this, I didn't return his calls. He assumed I'd always take him back. He was wrong.
You can't take your friends for granted either, at least if you want to keep them. Most people who love you will give you several chances, but unless they're family (and even then), they have a limit. Make sure you're not using your friends and that you give them the time and attention they deserve, even if it's a text message every now and then or a wall post on Facebook for their birthday.
Save the Drama
It's not for your friends or your mama. Just save it, period. Drama is a huge part of friendships, especially female ones. I used to teach high school and it was amusing seeing which girl stopped talking to which other girl. However, it also created a lot of wasted time and energy. I don't think anyone has ever looked back and wished they put up with more drama.
Even adults can have drama. Some people, of all ages, like to start it and continue it. If you love friends, you'll have to stop the drama. As your friends get older and more mature, they'll have less and less time for you if you're a drama queen.
Cool As A Cucumber
If you want to form lasting friendships, be cool. Few people are truly cool in the sense of being laid back and detached Think of the word cool for awhile. Unless you're a total nerd, at some point in your life, you wanted to be cool. Why? Because most of us value this relaxed mentality in other people. That's why cool is synonymous with popularity.
If you're an uptight person who keeps track of issues, judges others, and gets moody, you won't have many friends. As people grow up and move through life they have less and less time to spend with friends. Consequently, they began to drop friends who are less valuable. If you are cool, you'll always have people wanting your attention and you'll keep the friends you already have.
Conclusion
I hope you found my advice helpful. If you have your own friendship tips, please share them in the comments.
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