When there are feelings involved, it can be quite difficult to try and detach yourself from someone. Detaching yourself from a woman who just happens to now be your ex girlfriend is probably one of the most blatant examples of this. Most guys will find that it is kind of hard to sever those feelings and those emotional attachments that they have to an ex girlfriend. The ones that seem to find it the hardest, also seem to be the ones that have the hardest time with either trying to move on with their life or to try and win back their ex girlfriend.
No matter what, you do have to find a way to detach yourself, at least a little bit from your ex. There's no use in carrying around emotional ties to her if she is going to end up being with someone else. And, even if your real goal is to win her back, those emotional ties will make it harder to show her a brand new side of you. You have to be able to show her a brand new side if you really want to have a shot in the dark at getting back together.
Here are some tips on how to detach yourself from your ex girlfriend no matter if you want to move on, or, if you want to get back together with her:
1. Store away any pictures that you might have of her.
You are not going to sever those feelings and those ties to her if you are constantly looking at her. If you have photos of your ex girlfriend, store them away in a place where you can seem them. Having constant visual reminders is one sure way to keep thinking about her and to keep those ties alive.
2. Make new social contacts.
This can be very beneficial for a wide variety of reasons. One is, when you have limited social contacts with people, then the ones that you do have will carry more meaning. So, by having more social contacts to work with, you automatically give your ex girlfriend a little less meaning to your life, which is good when you want to get over her. Another benefit is the fact that making new friends will always open up new opportunities to meet women.
3. Consciously limit the amount of time that you think about her.
This has to be a conscious effort, because the subconscious will hold on to and linger on memories of your ex girlfriend. If you want to have less attachment to her, then you need to really limit the amount of time that you are thinking of her. Find a way to distract yourself from those thoughts.
No matter what, you do have to find a way to detach yourself, at least a little bit from your ex. There's no use in carrying around emotional ties to her if she is going to end up being with someone else. And, even if your real goal is to win her back, those emotional ties will make it harder to show her a brand new side of you. You have to be able to show her a brand new side if you really want to have a shot in the dark at getting back together.
Here are some tips on how to detach yourself from your ex girlfriend no matter if you want to move on, or, if you want to get back together with her:
1. Store away any pictures that you might have of her.
You are not going to sever those feelings and those ties to her if you are constantly looking at her. If you have photos of your ex girlfriend, store them away in a place where you can seem them. Having constant visual reminders is one sure way to keep thinking about her and to keep those ties alive.
2. Make new social contacts.
This can be very beneficial for a wide variety of reasons. One is, when you have limited social contacts with people, then the ones that you do have will carry more meaning. So, by having more social contacts to work with, you automatically give your ex girlfriend a little less meaning to your life, which is good when you want to get over her. Another benefit is the fact that making new friends will always open up new opportunities to meet women.
3. Consciously limit the amount of time that you think about her.
This has to be a conscious effort, because the subconscious will hold on to and linger on memories of your ex girlfriend. If you want to have less attachment to her, then you need to really limit the amount of time that you are thinking of her. Find a way to distract yourself from those thoughts.
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