It is not easy to get your family on track.
There are so many books and seminars available but try and change that finely oiled machine and you will be challenged! These are some step buy step strategies that I recommend to get you into the right head space for long term change.

• Record a day in your life.
  Write down what happens and how it makes you feel.
  Pretend you are talking to a close friend over a cup of coffee.
  
• Write a list of how you imagined having a family would be and what kind of relationship you were planning on having with your children.
  
• Create your own pro and cons list.
   Then create a list of short and long term goals.
  Be positive, as what limits us most in life is our thoughts and fears of failure.
  
• Personal values.
  What are your beliefs? How does it relate to the family as a unit and each member individually.
  Evaluate your children's responsibilities to themselves and others? What motivates each one of you most? Once you have had a chance to review everything that you have written down it will be time to come up with a plan of action.
  When listing your final plan and goals, make sure your plan has the following:
• Time frames.
  Put specific deadline when each undertaking should be completed by.
  
• Measure it - Don't be general.
  Set a specific goal and its outcome.
  

The list of goals and skills that our children need master will be long, and this is why we have their childhood to achieve them.
It still goes by quickly and the earlier we start the better.