My grandmother had a very wise saying.
"As long as there are two people in this world, there will always be war.
" She was a wise lady.
Her point is, people don't always agree on things...
even married couples.
When you participate at a forum, you're going to run into quite a few arguments.
In fact, I just ran smack dab into the middle of a whopper the last couple of days.
Seeing both sides of the argument is important.
I'm going to explain why in this article.
First of all, let me qualify this just a bit.
There is a HUGE difference between seeing both sides of an argument and flip flopping.
You don't want to be a flip flopper.
Trust me, you will be spotted and called out on it...
fast.
Whatever your personal feelings are on a subject, you want to hold onto those feelings unless you are truly swayed by the argument of the other side...
something that truly rarely happens.
But seeing both sides of an argument is important.
Why? Let me explain.
To have a healthy debate and to be able to maybe point out where you believe the other person is misinformed, you have to understand where they are coming from.
For example, a recent argument was about whether somebody should have copy protection on ebooks and software and whether or not ebooks should be PDFs with no protection or EXE files with all kinds of protection.
The actual argument for or against, for the purpose of this article, is irrelevant.
However, here is what's not.
If you truly believe that products should have some kind of copy protection because of loss of sales, piracy or whatever your argument is about, you need to understand the other side of the coin and where that person is coming from, for example, the inconvenience to the customer.
If you don't, you can't efficiently debate the point if you're only seeing it from YOUR side of things.
Needless to say, for this particular argument, I don't think either side is getting much of an advantage.
Point is, by being able to see both sides and actually express both points of views, you ultimately come off as more knowledgeable than the members who just continuously beat their point into the ground.
By coming off my knowledgeable, and maybe even more reasonable, you just might get people on the fence over to your side of the argument.
In other words, be open minded and objective about the subject.
Try to see the other person's point of view.
Watch how much respect you get from most of the members if you can do this.
To YOUR Success, Steven Wagenheim
"As long as there are two people in this world, there will always be war.
" She was a wise lady.
Her point is, people don't always agree on things...
even married couples.
When you participate at a forum, you're going to run into quite a few arguments.
In fact, I just ran smack dab into the middle of a whopper the last couple of days.
Seeing both sides of the argument is important.
I'm going to explain why in this article.
First of all, let me qualify this just a bit.
There is a HUGE difference between seeing both sides of an argument and flip flopping.
You don't want to be a flip flopper.
Trust me, you will be spotted and called out on it...
fast.
Whatever your personal feelings are on a subject, you want to hold onto those feelings unless you are truly swayed by the argument of the other side...
something that truly rarely happens.
But seeing both sides of an argument is important.
Why? Let me explain.
To have a healthy debate and to be able to maybe point out where you believe the other person is misinformed, you have to understand where they are coming from.
For example, a recent argument was about whether somebody should have copy protection on ebooks and software and whether or not ebooks should be PDFs with no protection or EXE files with all kinds of protection.
The actual argument for or against, for the purpose of this article, is irrelevant.
However, here is what's not.
If you truly believe that products should have some kind of copy protection because of loss of sales, piracy or whatever your argument is about, you need to understand the other side of the coin and where that person is coming from, for example, the inconvenience to the customer.
If you don't, you can't efficiently debate the point if you're only seeing it from YOUR side of things.
Needless to say, for this particular argument, I don't think either side is getting much of an advantage.
Point is, by being able to see both sides and actually express both points of views, you ultimately come off as more knowledgeable than the members who just continuously beat their point into the ground.
By coming off my knowledgeable, and maybe even more reasonable, you just might get people on the fence over to your side of the argument.
In other words, be open minded and objective about the subject.
Try to see the other person's point of view.
Watch how much respect you get from most of the members if you can do this.
To YOUR Success, Steven Wagenheim
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