Knowing how to manage the excesses of each other demands applying the principles of compromise, been able to understand and make sacrifices where necessary in order to make the marriage to work.
Making sacrifices and compromise involve sometimes one partner , having to adjust his or her own plans in order to assist the other partner achieve his or her own plans. It could also mean helping your partner achieve their ambitions sometimes while yours wait for a time so that there will be peace in the marriage relationship. This is some of the missing link in most marriage relationships, which usually leads to break up, divorce, separation etc that you must learn to save your marriage and build a better long lasting marriage relationship.
Here are two different scenarios that you could look at where one lacks the principle of compromise, sacrifice, understanding and genuine love for each other while the other exhibits all this traits for a long lasting relationships and marriage.
Scenario One
Tony is married to Janet.
On a tropical Saturday morning, they wake up and they starting discussing on their plans for the day. Janet told timothy that they should be going for the picnic that they earlier agreed together during the week for the weekend while timothy reminded her that he just recalled they should be having a great baseball game this week end which is timothy favorite weekend sport or game.
Janet demanded or pleaded with Tony that they should go together for their agreed picnic but tony was bent on going for his best sport game ie baseball.
Tony got off the bed and off he went for his baseball game with his friends while Jane was very hurt, disappointed, unhappy that the person she married does not take her wants, feelings, needs into consideration in making decisions that affect their relationship and marriage.
Tony is enjoying himself with his friends during the baseball games and does not in any where have any feeling that he has hurt the wife of his youth and he played the game till evening before going to take drinks at a bar with his friends. At the bar, he saw the waitress which was very pretty and make a pass at her and when the waitress returned , she handed over a note to him which contains her phone number.
He later went home , met the wife hurt, dejected and unhappy , instead of attending to the wife or apologizing to the wife , he rather asked for food from the wife and it hurt the wife the more and that lead to a serious disagreement and quarrel between them. This can go on and on like this in this marriage relationship leading to strain in the marriage , leading to separation, infidelity, break up , divorce and an unhappy married.
Scenario 2
Timothy is married to Helen , they have two kids etc.
On a tropical Saturday morning, they woke up and they starting discussing on their plans for the day. Helen told timothy that they should be going for the shopping together that they earlier agreed together during the week for the weekend while timothy reminded her that he just recalled they should be watching a great basket ball game that is starting during the weekend.
Helen tried to convince Timothy that the shopping is equally very important for them to be able to make a joint decision on certain things that they need to purchase for their sons birthday party coming up next week and some items for their home.
With stronger point of reasoning and view, Timothy saw reason why he need to give up his basket ball match and join his wife for the shopping, with the children too, in order to help them make sound decisions in their shopping and expenses, since he is more conservative in spending than the wife and also to ensure that the children and the whole family had a nice shopping time that weekend.
So Timothy gave up his basket ball match for the shopping, which made the wife to be very happy and they went together for the shopping with the children. They had a great time together during the weekend and everyone was happy and when they return back home , the wife thanked the husband for giving up what he like most in order to attend to her immediate need and the family as a whole. Timothy reply, that he also had a great time during the shopping and there are also more basketball matches that has been schedule for next weekend and suggested that they could go together with the wife and she gladly accepted to join him on that day.
These are the some of the compromises and sacrifices that we need to make in relationships and marriage that we fail to observe and do in order to build a long lasting relationship just like comparing the case of Timothy and Helen with Tony and Janet.
Naturally, you will know that the marriage that is leading towards a long lasting marriage is the one of Timothy and Helen. I believe that you have learnt one or two things here about using the principle of sacrifice and compromise to build or work on your relationship or marriage to make it to be long lasting and an enjoyable relationship.
Making sacrifices and compromise involve sometimes one partner , having to adjust his or her own plans in order to assist the other partner achieve his or her own plans. It could also mean helping your partner achieve their ambitions sometimes while yours wait for a time so that there will be peace in the marriage relationship. This is some of the missing link in most marriage relationships, which usually leads to break up, divorce, separation etc that you must learn to save your marriage and build a better long lasting marriage relationship.
Here are two different scenarios that you could look at where one lacks the principle of compromise, sacrifice, understanding and genuine love for each other while the other exhibits all this traits for a long lasting relationships and marriage.
Scenario One
Tony is married to Janet.
On a tropical Saturday morning, they wake up and they starting discussing on their plans for the day. Janet told timothy that they should be going for the picnic that they earlier agreed together during the week for the weekend while timothy reminded her that he just recalled they should be having a great baseball game this week end which is timothy favorite weekend sport or game.
Janet demanded or pleaded with Tony that they should go together for their agreed picnic but tony was bent on going for his best sport game ie baseball.
Tony got off the bed and off he went for his baseball game with his friends while Jane was very hurt, disappointed, unhappy that the person she married does not take her wants, feelings, needs into consideration in making decisions that affect their relationship and marriage.
Tony is enjoying himself with his friends during the baseball games and does not in any where have any feeling that he has hurt the wife of his youth and he played the game till evening before going to take drinks at a bar with his friends. At the bar, he saw the waitress which was very pretty and make a pass at her and when the waitress returned , she handed over a note to him which contains her phone number.
He later went home , met the wife hurt, dejected and unhappy , instead of attending to the wife or apologizing to the wife , he rather asked for food from the wife and it hurt the wife the more and that lead to a serious disagreement and quarrel between them. This can go on and on like this in this marriage relationship leading to strain in the marriage , leading to separation, infidelity, break up , divorce and an unhappy married.
Scenario 2
Timothy is married to Helen , they have two kids etc.
On a tropical Saturday morning, they woke up and they starting discussing on their plans for the day. Helen told timothy that they should be going for the shopping together that they earlier agreed together during the week for the weekend while timothy reminded her that he just recalled they should be watching a great basket ball game that is starting during the weekend.
Helen tried to convince Timothy that the shopping is equally very important for them to be able to make a joint decision on certain things that they need to purchase for their sons birthday party coming up next week and some items for their home.
With stronger point of reasoning and view, Timothy saw reason why he need to give up his basket ball match and join his wife for the shopping, with the children too, in order to help them make sound decisions in their shopping and expenses, since he is more conservative in spending than the wife and also to ensure that the children and the whole family had a nice shopping time that weekend.
So Timothy gave up his basket ball match for the shopping, which made the wife to be very happy and they went together for the shopping with the children. They had a great time together during the weekend and everyone was happy and when they return back home , the wife thanked the husband for giving up what he like most in order to attend to her immediate need and the family as a whole. Timothy reply, that he also had a great time during the shopping and there are also more basketball matches that has been schedule for next weekend and suggested that they could go together with the wife and she gladly accepted to join him on that day.
These are the some of the compromises and sacrifices that we need to make in relationships and marriage that we fail to observe and do in order to build a long lasting relationship just like comparing the case of Timothy and Helen with Tony and Janet.
Naturally, you will know that the marriage that is leading towards a long lasting marriage is the one of Timothy and Helen. I believe that you have learnt one or two things here about using the principle of sacrifice and compromise to build or work on your relationship or marriage to make it to be long lasting and an enjoyable relationship.
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