Do you have any bad communication habits? Chances are you may not know if you do.
Many couples find their marriage in trouble and talking together more and more difficult.
If you are at a breaking point and need to stop your divorce, try to recognize your communication skills may need work.
See if any of these attitudes and beliefs apply to you: -I believe I am right in almost all arguments -I get angry when my spouse says there is a problem with our marriage -I talk over my partner -I have a habit of 'eye-rolling' -I have trouble remembering what the argument was about -I shut down and don't say anything to keep the peace -I agree with my partner even when I really don't, it's easier -I bring up the past often to prove my point These common behaviors have many underlying causes.
You might not think any of these practices are unusual, just part of your personality.
However, bad communication can destroy a marriage.
If there are years worth of built up resentments, hurt feelings, and painful arguments you could be seeing your marriage crumble.
To stop your divorce look at some ways you can change bad communication into good and productive communication that will save your relationship.
Look at your spouse's side of the argument.
It's possible you both have good points.
Listening with an open, supportive mindset is possibly the most important part of good communication.
If you spouse brings up the fact that he/she feels there is a problem, don't immediately take it personally.
Stay open and listening.
Allow your partner to talk also, and wait to reply until they have finished speaking.
This affirms your respect for them.
Hear your partner's opinions without judgment.
Facial expressions like eye-rolling show a lack of respect and show indifference.
If you are so angry/upset/emotional during the argument you lose track of what it was about anyways, you have not heard your partner.
Try to listen with an open mind and keep your attention on your partner.
Silence and shutting down doesn't help you or your partner.
You may be using this as a defense mechanism to keep from sharing your feelings or triggering emotions in your partner.
Open up and keep talking to make sure your feelings are clear.
Agreeing with anything that your partner says just to keep the peace is just a temporary fix.
You should be true to yourself and voice your opinions without fear.
Covering up a difference with fake agreement just makes it worse in the long run.
Using the past as a weapon is a common tactic during fights.
You might think you are justified in using an example to win the argument.
However, if you continually bring up the past negative behaviors or history of your partner, you are only proving that they are not forgiven.
Live in the present and talk about how the situation makes you feel now.
If you find that these examples could apply to your relationship, you may have uncovered your true skill level of communication.
If you had bad communication skills, it does not mean your marriage is irreparable.
Everyone can benefit from being a better communicator and your marriage can be saved.
To stop your divorce, make changes in how you communicate.
The most important first step is recognizing you want to be better and making a change in the first place.
Many couples find their marriage in trouble and talking together more and more difficult.
If you are at a breaking point and need to stop your divorce, try to recognize your communication skills may need work.
See if any of these attitudes and beliefs apply to you: -I believe I am right in almost all arguments -I get angry when my spouse says there is a problem with our marriage -I talk over my partner -I have a habit of 'eye-rolling' -I have trouble remembering what the argument was about -I shut down and don't say anything to keep the peace -I agree with my partner even when I really don't, it's easier -I bring up the past often to prove my point These common behaviors have many underlying causes.
You might not think any of these practices are unusual, just part of your personality.
However, bad communication can destroy a marriage.
If there are years worth of built up resentments, hurt feelings, and painful arguments you could be seeing your marriage crumble.
To stop your divorce look at some ways you can change bad communication into good and productive communication that will save your relationship.
Look at your spouse's side of the argument.
It's possible you both have good points.
Listening with an open, supportive mindset is possibly the most important part of good communication.
If you spouse brings up the fact that he/she feels there is a problem, don't immediately take it personally.
Stay open and listening.
Allow your partner to talk also, and wait to reply until they have finished speaking.
This affirms your respect for them.
Hear your partner's opinions without judgment.
Facial expressions like eye-rolling show a lack of respect and show indifference.
If you are so angry/upset/emotional during the argument you lose track of what it was about anyways, you have not heard your partner.
Try to listen with an open mind and keep your attention on your partner.
Silence and shutting down doesn't help you or your partner.
You may be using this as a defense mechanism to keep from sharing your feelings or triggering emotions in your partner.
Open up and keep talking to make sure your feelings are clear.
Agreeing with anything that your partner says just to keep the peace is just a temporary fix.
You should be true to yourself and voice your opinions without fear.
Covering up a difference with fake agreement just makes it worse in the long run.
Using the past as a weapon is a common tactic during fights.
You might think you are justified in using an example to win the argument.
However, if you continually bring up the past negative behaviors or history of your partner, you are only proving that they are not forgiven.
Live in the present and talk about how the situation makes you feel now.
If you find that these examples could apply to your relationship, you may have uncovered your true skill level of communication.
If you had bad communication skills, it does not mean your marriage is irreparable.
Everyone can benefit from being a better communicator and your marriage can be saved.
To stop your divorce, make changes in how you communicate.
The most important first step is recognizing you want to be better and making a change in the first place.
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