In the beginning when you start out a relationship seems to be a very easy
thing to handle but if you are asking how to get your boyfriend back then you
need to realise that in the give and take compromise and sacrifice are critical
to the well being of any relationship. Unfortunately mending a broken
relationship is never an easy task but what follows will most certainly make
the job a lot easier.
Rather than focusing on your all encompassing thought of how to get your
boyfriend back you need to be concentrating on the causes of the breakup. When
these reasons are understood you will be able to remove the stress and tension
and be able to move towards a reconciliation.
Relationships do not generally fail unless there were underlying reasons. It
may be that your boyfriend left you because you were too smothering or it could
have been because you were too distant. These two possible reasons are poles
apart but either one may be valid. Men like to know that they are wanted and
loved, but at the same time they cannot stand being smothered.
Whatever the reason may be that mainly caused the breakup, it was more than
likely something that you didn't do, or something that you did. Now although
this seems like an unfair way to look at things, unfortunately this is just how
it normally works. The one who was left behind either did, or did not do
something and the other person just felt driven away. So what to do now, and
how are you going to get him to come back? Your first step is to evaluate and
then change whatever it was that drove him away in the first place.
When you have found one thing that was the cause look deep into yourself to
find the reason why you act this way. It will be something from your past,
maybe something from your childhood. Many times we are hobbled by situations
from the past. Examine this thing that is stifling your growth. See it for what
it is, just a situation or emotion from the past that has no bearing on your
present life.
As an example if you are a smotherer maybe you lost someone or something
importent as a child and now you have a subconcious fear of losing what you
love. See that your reaction to your fear is doing what you fear most; causing
you to lose what you love. This is the beginning of how to get your boyfriend
back.
If you seem to be the type of person who appears distant it may be that someone
you cared about as a child left you and you felt abandoned, now to protect
yourself from hurt you keep people at arms length. Here the old adage nothing
ventured nothing gained should hold you in good stead; what I mean here is that
life is a journey and sometimes there will be bumps in the road. The experience
of love and the experience of loss are both there for us to enjoy. How else do
we learn and grow?
You may need to do this exercise a few times to ensure that you whittle out any
and all of the events that are holding you back. Once you are sure that you
have a new understanding of how these emotions can rule your relationships and
you feel that you can have a relationship free of these debilitating emotions,
then is the time that you can contact your ex when you can explain what you
have been doing and you will now have an excellent chance to get your boyfriend
back.
thing to handle but if you are asking how to get your boyfriend back then you
need to realise that in the give and take compromise and sacrifice are critical
to the well being of any relationship. Unfortunately mending a broken
relationship is never an easy task but what follows will most certainly make
the job a lot easier.
Rather than focusing on your all encompassing thought of how to get your
boyfriend back you need to be concentrating on the causes of the breakup. When
these reasons are understood you will be able to remove the stress and tension
and be able to move towards a reconciliation.
Relationships do not generally fail unless there were underlying reasons. It
may be that your boyfriend left you because you were too smothering or it could
have been because you were too distant. These two possible reasons are poles
apart but either one may be valid. Men like to know that they are wanted and
loved, but at the same time they cannot stand being smothered.
Whatever the reason may be that mainly caused the breakup, it was more than
likely something that you didn't do, or something that you did. Now although
this seems like an unfair way to look at things, unfortunately this is just how
it normally works. The one who was left behind either did, or did not do
something and the other person just felt driven away. So what to do now, and
how are you going to get him to come back? Your first step is to evaluate and
then change whatever it was that drove him away in the first place.
When you have found one thing that was the cause look deep into yourself to
find the reason why you act this way. It will be something from your past,
maybe something from your childhood. Many times we are hobbled by situations
from the past. Examine this thing that is stifling your growth. See it for what
it is, just a situation or emotion from the past that has no bearing on your
present life.
As an example if you are a smotherer maybe you lost someone or something
importent as a child and now you have a subconcious fear of losing what you
love. See that your reaction to your fear is doing what you fear most; causing
you to lose what you love. This is the beginning of how to get your boyfriend
back.
If you seem to be the type of person who appears distant it may be that someone
you cared about as a child left you and you felt abandoned, now to protect
yourself from hurt you keep people at arms length. Here the old adage nothing
ventured nothing gained should hold you in good stead; what I mean here is that
life is a journey and sometimes there will be bumps in the road. The experience
of love and the experience of loss are both there for us to enjoy. How else do
we learn and grow?
You may need to do this exercise a few times to ensure that you whittle out any
and all of the events that are holding you back. Once you are sure that you
have a new understanding of how these emotions can rule your relationships and
you feel that you can have a relationship free of these debilitating emotions,
then is the time that you can contact your ex when you can explain what you
have been doing and you will now have an excellent chance to get your boyfriend
back.
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