If you are tired, feeling alone and getting frustrated then you need help.
When living with an alcoholic spouse you are likely to feel out of control.
There are some helpful tips that can help you to have a happy life no matter how much your spouse is drinking.
By using the following tips, you can begin to feel peace and possibly contentment.

• Get a hobby or find recreation.
  By doing something you enjoy you can find your own happiness, no matter what is going on at home.
  Do not feel guilty about doing things for yourself.
  
• Find support.
  By hearing other people's stories, you can find solutions that can work for your own life.
  Find people that have been where you are now.
  For alternatives to this, please see the paragraph following these tips.
  
• Do not nag! This cannot be emphasized enough.
  Nagging has never helped any spouse to quit drinking.
  It has to be their decision.
  Nagging will only make you miserable.
  You can learn new ways to respond to your loved one's drinking.
  It is possible and may sound crazy but it has worked for many people.
  
• Create boundaries and stick to them.
  For instance, when your spouse is drunk, you may want to create a boundary that you will not be around them until they are sober.
  In this case, leave.
  Find something to do that you enjoy.
  
• Get help for yourself.
  By concentrating on you, you will quickly find that your life will get easier.
  The progress may be slow at first, do not get discouraged.
  

Overall, there are many things that can help a marriage in trouble because of addiction.
By trying different things you can find out what works for you and your marriage.
The most important thing is to discover what other people have done in your situation.
If their tools worked for them, maybe they can also work for you.
If you do not feel comfortable going to support groups right now, do not worry.
There other ways of getting advice and help.
Watching videos of real people with real stories is a great way to find solutions.
You may even find happiness whether your alcoholic spouse is drinking or not.
Remember, it is about you and your life.
Stop focusing on your spouse.
Let them have the freedom to find their own solution.
You just might be amazed at how great this can work.