How to Stop a Divorce Why Are You Getting Divorced? It is impossible to fix a problem if you do not know what that problem is.
Identify the problem before you go about trying to fix it.
Otherwise, you will be using methods that have no bearing on the problem whatsoever and it will be like trying to put a square peg into a round hole.
More often than not, it does not help, but it usually makes the problem a lot worse, making it a lot more difficult to salvage the situation.
So how do you go about identifying the problem? Communication If you have ever played a sport that was a team game, you will know that the key to success is communication.
A marriage is a team sport and only succeeds when both members of the team are communicating to the fullest.
When you stop communicating, you are unaware of what is going on in your partner's life.
If you do not know what goes on in their life, how can you be expected to be there to help and support them through those times that they need you the most.
Only by asking can you find out, as some people will not be so quick to tell you everything about their day no matter how comfortable they feel around you.
Compromise Always be willing to compromise on things that you would like to do.
A good relationship is based on an understanding of what the other person likes and letting them have their way every now and then.
You can not have everything your own way and sometimes we do not even realize we are doing it.
Taking the initiative is okay, but total domination is another thing altogether.
If your partner feels like his/her voice is not being heard, then they will feel smothered and might not let you know about it until it is too late.
Put your spouse first and if both of you are doing this, you will be amazed at how much more enjoyment you will get out of doing things for each other.
Agree Have you ever noticed that you always agree with your best friends.
The reason for this is that people always like other people that think the same way as they do.
If you confirm what people think, you feed their ego to an extent and this makes them feel better about themselves.
So, when your spouse states that you have done something wrong, instead of disagreeing try agreeing.
When your spouse says that you need some time apart, agree with them.
Most of the time it is a constant stream of disagreeing that drives people apart.
When you agree with them, things become a lot easier on both of you.
No longer are you pushing against your spouse, but for once, you are making life easier.
This is what they want.
They do not want constant bickering and pointless arguments about trivial matters.
Always be willing to say that you are in the wrong, even when you are not.
Identify the problem before you go about trying to fix it.
Otherwise, you will be using methods that have no bearing on the problem whatsoever and it will be like trying to put a square peg into a round hole.
More often than not, it does not help, but it usually makes the problem a lot worse, making it a lot more difficult to salvage the situation.
So how do you go about identifying the problem? Communication If you have ever played a sport that was a team game, you will know that the key to success is communication.
A marriage is a team sport and only succeeds when both members of the team are communicating to the fullest.
When you stop communicating, you are unaware of what is going on in your partner's life.
If you do not know what goes on in their life, how can you be expected to be there to help and support them through those times that they need you the most.
Only by asking can you find out, as some people will not be so quick to tell you everything about their day no matter how comfortable they feel around you.
Compromise Always be willing to compromise on things that you would like to do.
A good relationship is based on an understanding of what the other person likes and letting them have their way every now and then.
You can not have everything your own way and sometimes we do not even realize we are doing it.
Taking the initiative is okay, but total domination is another thing altogether.
If your partner feels like his/her voice is not being heard, then they will feel smothered and might not let you know about it until it is too late.
Put your spouse first and if both of you are doing this, you will be amazed at how much more enjoyment you will get out of doing things for each other.
Agree Have you ever noticed that you always agree with your best friends.
The reason for this is that people always like other people that think the same way as they do.
If you confirm what people think, you feed their ego to an extent and this makes them feel better about themselves.
So, when your spouse states that you have done something wrong, instead of disagreeing try agreeing.
When your spouse says that you need some time apart, agree with them.
Most of the time it is a constant stream of disagreeing that drives people apart.
When you agree with them, things become a lot easier on both of you.
No longer are you pushing against your spouse, but for once, you are making life easier.
This is what they want.
They do not want constant bickering and pointless arguments about trivial matters.
Always be willing to say that you are in the wrong, even when you are not.
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