The question of happiness in marriage comes up time and time again in many circles.
Most wedding moments mark our days as the happiest of our lives.
Weddings may start the marriage, but marriage is every day for the rest of our lives.
Why does the atmosphere change in our relationship, and can anything be done about it? Before your wedding you focused on the event, your spouse to be and those who would be celebrating with you.
Lots of time was put into making things just right.
You probably even took time off work and other responsibilities to not only take care of details, but to spend with your fiance as well.
Happiness in those days came from the celebration, the progress of your relationship and excitement of friends and family.
Now, that event is weeks, months or years behind us.
It lives in our minds and photo albums, but the effects no longer stir passion within us.
What can we do? Marriage is a dynamic relationship.
Our actions directly affect the direction of our marriage.
Although it takes two to make a marriage successful, one can begin to influence for a change.
Are you willing to be the one? Start with what is in your mind.
Settle the question of your commitment to your spouse.
They may have changed, but together you once had a meaningful relationship.
You can again, but you must remove the thought of other alternatives.
Plan on being the example of a supportive, encouraging, thoughtful, loving spouse even though it may not reciprocated for a while.
Put these actions into practice: 1) Contemplate on the characteristics of your spouse that drew you to them.
2) Share those memories and what they mean to you with your spouse.
3) Remind your spouse of your love and commitment to them.
4) Do thoughtful actions often that will be meaningful to them.
5) Seek to understand where life has been taking them in their job, interests, and friendships.
These positive action steps plant seeds of greater connection, understanding and love into your relationship.
They will take on a journey of loving your spouse again.
It might take some time for them to come around, and we all know that there are no guarantees in trying to change others.
It will, however, create an environment where guards can be lowered and hurts can be forgiven and communication can be redeveloped.
Most wedding moments mark our days as the happiest of our lives.
Weddings may start the marriage, but marriage is every day for the rest of our lives.
Why does the atmosphere change in our relationship, and can anything be done about it? Before your wedding you focused on the event, your spouse to be and those who would be celebrating with you.
Lots of time was put into making things just right.
You probably even took time off work and other responsibilities to not only take care of details, but to spend with your fiance as well.
Happiness in those days came from the celebration, the progress of your relationship and excitement of friends and family.
Now, that event is weeks, months or years behind us.
It lives in our minds and photo albums, but the effects no longer stir passion within us.
What can we do? Marriage is a dynamic relationship.
Our actions directly affect the direction of our marriage.
Although it takes two to make a marriage successful, one can begin to influence for a change.
Are you willing to be the one? Start with what is in your mind.
Settle the question of your commitment to your spouse.
They may have changed, but together you once had a meaningful relationship.
You can again, but you must remove the thought of other alternatives.
Plan on being the example of a supportive, encouraging, thoughtful, loving spouse even though it may not reciprocated for a while.
Put these actions into practice: 1) Contemplate on the characteristics of your spouse that drew you to them.
2) Share those memories and what they mean to you with your spouse.
3) Remind your spouse of your love and commitment to them.
4) Do thoughtful actions often that will be meaningful to them.
5) Seek to understand where life has been taking them in their job, interests, and friendships.
These positive action steps plant seeds of greater connection, understanding and love into your relationship.
They will take on a journey of loving your spouse again.
It might take some time for them to come around, and we all know that there are no guarantees in trying to change others.
It will, however, create an environment where guards can be lowered and hurts can be forgiven and communication can be redeveloped.
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