The tough part of surviving a relationship break up is being able to keep some powerful emotions in check during the in initial storm. That is, when you hear those piercing words which basically tell you it's over, panic and desperation suddenly pervade one's thoughts.
The instinctive reaction is to want to convince your ex that they are doing the wrong thing; to give you another chance or you simply want to argue with them and act in a needy fashion. Look, it's perfectly natural to react in this way but if you plan to experience the magic of making up then experience them elsewhere.
In other words, avoid the confrontation with the person you plan on winning back in the future. The way you react or act in the first weeks of a break up will determine your chances of reconciliation. Take out your frustrations on your ex and your just convincing them they have made the right decision.
Emotions are high on both sides at this time and and bad decisions and things will be said and done. Let's take a look at five of the major things you want to avoid after a break up
How To Survive A Break Up
1. One of the first rules of surviving a relationship break up is to find some solid ground. Remember, things may seem hopeless to you now but the best thing you can do is walk away from it and get your thinking back on the "straight and narrow."
2. Don't contact your ex. Avoid the temptation to pick up the phone or send them a text or email. Many will do this acting out of impulse when they want to share something. It's natural. You always shared stuff with them when you were together but you're not now.
3. Don't run them down to their friends. If you run into friends of your ex and they ask how you are just say you're doing great or you're taking a trip or you're even dating again. Anything but being critical of your ex.
4. Avoid the temptation to show up at their favorite hang outs and then treat it as a co-incidence. People will see through this and if it happens regularly then it's becoming more than co-incidence.
5. Don't act needy. That is, avoid telling your ex you cannot live without them and your life means nothing without them. This is considered ugly behavior and gives you no positioning at all.
The instinctive reaction is to want to convince your ex that they are doing the wrong thing; to give you another chance or you simply want to argue with them and act in a needy fashion. Look, it's perfectly natural to react in this way but if you plan to experience the magic of making up then experience them elsewhere.
In other words, avoid the confrontation with the person you plan on winning back in the future. The way you react or act in the first weeks of a break up will determine your chances of reconciliation. Take out your frustrations on your ex and your just convincing them they have made the right decision.
Emotions are high on both sides at this time and and bad decisions and things will be said and done. Let's take a look at five of the major things you want to avoid after a break up
How To Survive A Break Up
1. One of the first rules of surviving a relationship break up is to find some solid ground. Remember, things may seem hopeless to you now but the best thing you can do is walk away from it and get your thinking back on the "straight and narrow."
2. Don't contact your ex. Avoid the temptation to pick up the phone or send them a text or email. Many will do this acting out of impulse when they want to share something. It's natural. You always shared stuff with them when you were together but you're not now.
3. Don't run them down to their friends. If you run into friends of your ex and they ask how you are just say you're doing great or you're taking a trip or you're even dating again. Anything but being critical of your ex.
4. Avoid the temptation to show up at their favorite hang outs and then treat it as a co-incidence. People will see through this and if it happens regularly then it's becoming more than co-incidence.
5. Don't act needy. That is, avoid telling your ex you cannot live without them and your life means nothing without them. This is considered ugly behavior and gives you no positioning at all.
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