When I was told I was going to be a dad my experiences up to that point were controllable, but life as we know it was soon to change.
We can't always control it even though we want to, but baby comes first.
Being a parent is always spoken about from the mother's point of view, but men have another experience in their parallel path.
When our first child Zac came along it was a real eye opener.
Our lives were turned on their heads.
We did not know what was what for at least eight weeks.
Gradually a pattern emerged and it became our daily routine and it has metamorphosed itself since.
Now with two children our life feels more complete.
It is a real way of life now and times like Christmas and summer holidays have been transformed into something I would have dreaded years ago.
But if I could go back to the start would I do anything different? I could say I would but if put in that place I would be naive as I was when I just became a parent originally.
Hospital was a long way away, so I had to drive calmly to ensure Mum to be and I would get there in one piece.
When we were on our way in, even though I was told our baby was due...
I was not psychologically up to the same speed as my wife, she was always nine months ahead of me! The bag was ready to go for weeks and had all the requirements - baby nappies, baby vests and usual paraphernalia were present that I would become familiar with over the next few months.
I completely forgot that Liz myself and a child were going to come home in a few days, the figure three never entered my head.
It is a while ago now, ten years to be exact and I still seem to be playing catch up.
I never seem to be on the same page with the current set of guidelines we are working with.
Parenting is constantly changing.
We only put a guideline in place that we work to and it has to be changed within a week as the dynamics of the situation are so diverse that something will affect the original ruling.
Things have changed so much we can't even turn to our parents as the world in which they lived in does not exist anymore.
Media today feed us with constant images, so much information is being streamed to us that we cant sensor it in our homes.
It all still boils down to a common factor that if we have the opportunity to remain at home and be focused on our child's upbringing we can maintain the status quo.
The future is in our hands and we must maintain some sense of consistency with the past as we do know our parents routine and our upbringing has worked for us.
We can't always control it even though we want to, but baby comes first.
Being a parent is always spoken about from the mother's point of view, but men have another experience in their parallel path.
When our first child Zac came along it was a real eye opener.
Our lives were turned on their heads.
We did not know what was what for at least eight weeks.
Gradually a pattern emerged and it became our daily routine and it has metamorphosed itself since.
Now with two children our life feels more complete.
It is a real way of life now and times like Christmas and summer holidays have been transformed into something I would have dreaded years ago.
But if I could go back to the start would I do anything different? I could say I would but if put in that place I would be naive as I was when I just became a parent originally.
Hospital was a long way away, so I had to drive calmly to ensure Mum to be and I would get there in one piece.
When we were on our way in, even though I was told our baby was due...
I was not psychologically up to the same speed as my wife, she was always nine months ahead of me! The bag was ready to go for weeks and had all the requirements - baby nappies, baby vests and usual paraphernalia were present that I would become familiar with over the next few months.
I completely forgot that Liz myself and a child were going to come home in a few days, the figure three never entered my head.
It is a while ago now, ten years to be exact and I still seem to be playing catch up.
I never seem to be on the same page with the current set of guidelines we are working with.
Parenting is constantly changing.
We only put a guideline in place that we work to and it has to be changed within a week as the dynamics of the situation are so diverse that something will affect the original ruling.
Things have changed so much we can't even turn to our parents as the world in which they lived in does not exist anymore.
Media today feed us with constant images, so much information is being streamed to us that we cant sensor it in our homes.
It all still boils down to a common factor that if we have the opportunity to remain at home and be focused on our child's upbringing we can maintain the status quo.
The future is in our hands and we must maintain some sense of consistency with the past as we do know our parents routine and our upbringing has worked for us.
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