- 1). Establish an "expectation of self-sufficiency." As MSNBC reports, parents can play a large part in shaping their children's relationships with work. To ensure that children develop a healthy relationship toward work and realize that work is vital to their adult survival, parents should begin instilling the concept of self-sufficiency in their children around the ages of 13 or 14. By gradually moving away from the habit of buying for your child and starting to require that he earn and spend his own money on things like toys or social outings, you can make it clear to your growing son that he will need to support himself and set him up for job-acquisition success in the future.
- 2). Teach your child the basics of job hunting. Show your child how to use print media job listings as well as Internet job search options. If this is your child's first time seeking employment, his hesitancy to do so may be due to the fact that he is unfamiliar with how to go about getting a job.
- 3). Help him job search. By moving through the process of hunting for a job with your child, you can both assist him in completing this potentially difficult task and show that his job, and by connection his life, is important to you. The more importance you place on this process, the easier it will be for him to see that you care and the more likely he will be to try to do as you ask and obtain a job.
- 4). Praise the child for his job-acquisition efforts. If you feel that your son's job search is long overdue, you may be tempted to respond with comments like, "about time" or, "finally!" By responding in this negative manner, you may have a negative impact on the degree to which he is committed to the job search process. When you son talks to you about his job search, be as positive as possible so that he is more inclined to continue in his current efforts.
- 5). Require that the child contribute to household costs. If your child is older yet still living at home and is still unwilling to take a job, it may be necessary to make job acquisition absolutely mandatory. To do this, stop giving your grown child any type of spending money, and set an amount that he must contribute to the household.
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