In Singaporean society where both the father and the mother have their own careers, parenting of the child often involves the grandparents.
They can definitely aid you in bringing up your child but there could also be some tricky issues involved.
We shall look at these in our entry today: Benefits of the Grandparents in parenting your child: o Lightening the load of busy working parents.
I've seen grandparents bringing and fetching the children from school, cooking lunch and attending to all these basic needs when the parents are working in their offices.
o Overall development of the child.
Needless to say, the grandparents can virtually spend all their time interacting, caring, teaching and playing with the child.
New skills can be picked up and strong bonds can be formed too.
o Another perspective of parenting.
Grandparents are huge sources of experiences and wisdom, and they could have their own way of handling children, some of which most parents may not know of these days.
Then again, the relationship between parents and grandparents in the parenting of the child is not as smooth sailing.
In fact, I've experienced some of the problems myself as a child when my grandparents had the chance to baby sit me.
Below is a compilation of what I've recalled and also some pointers my friends had chipped in: 1.
Taking a backseat.
Many grandparents want to contribute to the parenting of the grandchild and find it hard to accept that they have to take a less active role.
As such, quarrels may arise between both parties.
2.
Respect their habits.
Alright, I've seen this drama serial on Channel 8, 9pm.
The parents literally placed the child in the care of the grandparents, as such, affecting their daily routine.
Example: The grandparents are not used to having warm water and air con in the presence of the child.
3.
Communications.
Arguments may surface and communicating well is important.
Hearing each other out, staying courteous without shouting and coming to a compromise are just some of the ways to avoid conflicts.
4.
Responsibility.
The main role of parenting should ultimately fall into the hands of the parents.
Grandparents are just to fill in the gaps.
Remember not to just leave everything to your grandparents, you have to fulfill your responsibilities as parents! Here is a clip about good grandparenting.
They can definitely aid you in bringing up your child but there could also be some tricky issues involved.
We shall look at these in our entry today: Benefits of the Grandparents in parenting your child: o Lightening the load of busy working parents.
I've seen grandparents bringing and fetching the children from school, cooking lunch and attending to all these basic needs when the parents are working in their offices.
o Overall development of the child.
Needless to say, the grandparents can virtually spend all their time interacting, caring, teaching and playing with the child.
New skills can be picked up and strong bonds can be formed too.
o Another perspective of parenting.
Grandparents are huge sources of experiences and wisdom, and they could have their own way of handling children, some of which most parents may not know of these days.
Then again, the relationship between parents and grandparents in the parenting of the child is not as smooth sailing.
In fact, I've experienced some of the problems myself as a child when my grandparents had the chance to baby sit me.
Below is a compilation of what I've recalled and also some pointers my friends had chipped in: 1.
Taking a backseat.
Many grandparents want to contribute to the parenting of the grandchild and find it hard to accept that they have to take a less active role.
As such, quarrels may arise between both parties.
2.
Respect their habits.
Alright, I've seen this drama serial on Channel 8, 9pm.
The parents literally placed the child in the care of the grandparents, as such, affecting their daily routine.
Example: The grandparents are not used to having warm water and air con in the presence of the child.
3.
Communications.
Arguments may surface and communicating well is important.
Hearing each other out, staying courteous without shouting and coming to a compromise are just some of the ways to avoid conflicts.
4.
Responsibility.
The main role of parenting should ultimately fall into the hands of the parents.
Grandparents are just to fill in the gaps.
Remember not to just leave everything to your grandparents, you have to fulfill your responsibilities as parents! Here is a clip about good grandparenting.
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