There's no easy way to deal with a broken heart. Your only choice is to deal with it or not. And yes, they will both be a sad, desperate experience. However, it would be a healthier option for you to fix a broken heart just letting it sit there and fester. Acknowledging the fact that the relationship is over will allow you to plan for your future. Now, there are a lot of ways how to mend a broken heart. To help you avoid faulty methods, here are some things you must NOT do if you wish to get over a past relationship.
1. Hold on to grudges. There's nothing more devastating and embarrasing than to have the rug pulled from under you. When everything unfolds opposite to what you've assumed all the while, you are left clueless and a bit betrayed. It is upon this scenario that you will feel very bitter about how things turned out. Regardles, trust me when I say you won't benefit from being angry about the break up. And although, in some way, you may find justice in taking revenge, it will not offer you anything meaningful. Instead of moving on, you'd more likely be stagnated because you can't forgive and let go. You might even keep your wall up and turn away positive opportunities in your life because you are blinded by resentment.
2. Expect that he'll come back to you eventually. It's a nice thought. And it might seem possible. But it won't help you fix a broken heart. You're just denying yourself the chance to move on. It's a lovely thought, nothing more. Keep that in mind. If he walks away, don't think about him anymore. Live your life and make the most out of it. If you want him back, you just to give him time and space and work on yourself so he'd realize how much of an asset you really are. If you are destined to be together, you will be together. It might sound cliché, but it's true.
3. Drink and party. Go out, meet new people. But you don't need to drown yourself in alcohol and choose to constantly get together with them in a party scene. It may feel like its working because you are happy. But once the alcohol effects wear out and the hype dies, you will find yourself feeling more alone. It's a distraction, remember that. Not a way if life. Eventually, you will have to talk about it and make proper plans. If it is possible, just alternate between talking to your family, to your friends and your self. You need to process through a lot of information so you could understand the why, how, when, where of the break up.
1. Hold on to grudges. There's nothing more devastating and embarrasing than to have the rug pulled from under you. When everything unfolds opposite to what you've assumed all the while, you are left clueless and a bit betrayed. It is upon this scenario that you will feel very bitter about how things turned out. Regardles, trust me when I say you won't benefit from being angry about the break up. And although, in some way, you may find justice in taking revenge, it will not offer you anything meaningful. Instead of moving on, you'd more likely be stagnated because you can't forgive and let go. You might even keep your wall up and turn away positive opportunities in your life because you are blinded by resentment.
2. Expect that he'll come back to you eventually. It's a nice thought. And it might seem possible. But it won't help you fix a broken heart. You're just denying yourself the chance to move on. It's a lovely thought, nothing more. Keep that in mind. If he walks away, don't think about him anymore. Live your life and make the most out of it. If you want him back, you just to give him time and space and work on yourself so he'd realize how much of an asset you really are. If you are destined to be together, you will be together. It might sound cliché, but it's true.
3. Drink and party. Go out, meet new people. But you don't need to drown yourself in alcohol and choose to constantly get together with them in a party scene. It may feel like its working because you are happy. But once the alcohol effects wear out and the hype dies, you will find yourself feeling more alone. It's a distraction, remember that. Not a way if life. Eventually, you will have to talk about it and make proper plans. If it is possible, just alternate between talking to your family, to your friends and your self. You need to process through a lot of information so you could understand the why, how, when, where of the break up.
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