Is it worth being right over being happy? I have been watching the Dr.
Phil family television show that airs every Monday on the Dr.
Phil Show.
What puzzles me is why Erin and her daughter Alexandra are really getting on each others nerves all the time.
It seems apparent after watching much of Dr.
Phil's family on Mondays, you understand that the whole family is really hurting and fences need to be mended.
There is so much anger within the family.
But who is going to be the big person here and accept to back down, if just for the sake of repairing that very bruised mother daughter relationship? It seems to me that Mom (Erin) is trying so hard to be right even if it kills whatever semblance of a relationship that may be left between her and her daughter (Alexandra).
Granted, Alexandra is rebellious and has made some poor choices in her life up to this point, but she is currently pregnant, and maybe her hormones are all over the place right now, but I get the feeling that no matter what she does, she does not feel like her mom will approve and so she decided to go the opposite direction completely.
At 22, she is at the stage where she feels, she knows it all.
How do I know this? Because I was 22 once and I really made some very stupid choices too.
And now, when I look back, I understand that my parents were trying to protect me, from my bad choices.
But in retrospect, had my parents not really provoked me to make some hard choices, maybe I would not have rebelled and gone in the opposite direction either.
So, what am trying to say here is, Erin as the mother, needs to set an example to the daughter, Alexandra, by learning to compromise and not be so intent on being right all the time.
She needs to make her daughter feel secure but not spoilt, so that the daughter can learn to confide in her mom and have a healthy relationship with her.
Parents are always quick to quote Ephesians 6:1 - "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
" But they forget that there is actually another verse in the Bible that says: "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them.
Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
" Ephesians 6:4.
Parents do not make your children bitter about life but instead discipline them in love and let them have some wonderful memories to remember of when they are grown.
Mother (Erin) needs to let go of the disappointments that Alexandra has brought to her family.
At some point, she has to embrace her daughter for just who she is and accept her with all her faults and everything.
So, goes for us all if happiness is the end game here.
Let us quit trying to change the other party and trying so hard to make them conform to out standards.
Let us instead focus on the present, who they are now and accept that they see things from a different point of view.
This goes for relationships with the family, with your friends and more especially with your spouse or even your work mates.
Phil family television show that airs every Monday on the Dr.
Phil Show.
What puzzles me is why Erin and her daughter Alexandra are really getting on each others nerves all the time.
It seems apparent after watching much of Dr.
Phil's family on Mondays, you understand that the whole family is really hurting and fences need to be mended.
There is so much anger within the family.
But who is going to be the big person here and accept to back down, if just for the sake of repairing that very bruised mother daughter relationship? It seems to me that Mom (Erin) is trying so hard to be right even if it kills whatever semblance of a relationship that may be left between her and her daughter (Alexandra).
Granted, Alexandra is rebellious and has made some poor choices in her life up to this point, but she is currently pregnant, and maybe her hormones are all over the place right now, but I get the feeling that no matter what she does, she does not feel like her mom will approve and so she decided to go the opposite direction completely.
At 22, she is at the stage where she feels, she knows it all.
How do I know this? Because I was 22 once and I really made some very stupid choices too.
And now, when I look back, I understand that my parents were trying to protect me, from my bad choices.
But in retrospect, had my parents not really provoked me to make some hard choices, maybe I would not have rebelled and gone in the opposite direction either.
So, what am trying to say here is, Erin as the mother, needs to set an example to the daughter, Alexandra, by learning to compromise and not be so intent on being right all the time.
She needs to make her daughter feel secure but not spoilt, so that the daughter can learn to confide in her mom and have a healthy relationship with her.
Parents are always quick to quote Ephesians 6:1 - "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
" But they forget that there is actually another verse in the Bible that says: "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them.
Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
" Ephesians 6:4.
Parents do not make your children bitter about life but instead discipline them in love and let them have some wonderful memories to remember of when they are grown.
Mother (Erin) needs to let go of the disappointments that Alexandra has brought to her family.
At some point, she has to embrace her daughter for just who she is and accept her with all her faults and everything.
So, goes for us all if happiness is the end game here.
Let us quit trying to change the other party and trying so hard to make them conform to out standards.
Let us instead focus on the present, who they are now and accept that they see things from a different point of view.
This goes for relationships with the family, with your friends and more especially with your spouse or even your work mates.
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