When times get rough friendships get tested.
The friends who remain when the hardship is over are the ones who are your true friends.
If gone through a hardship and lost friends or you just want more friends you need to know keys to a better relationship and some understanding of friendships.
What happens to the friends who disappeared? The disappearing "friends" are not really friends, they may be there for what you provide when things are good.
They may be there to absorb your feelings of joy and happiness.
They may just not care as much about you as you do them.
Understand that for whatever reason they can not be there for you.
Decide if it worth that cost.
Can you change your friends? You can change who your friends are.
You can choose to keep the friends, change the amount of time you spend with them, distance yourself or end the friendship.
What you can not do is change the friend.
They are who they are.
Are you there in hardship? Almost everyone has times when life is hard.
It may be a loss of job, death of someone close, things not working or whatever that makes life difficult.
If you are not there for others when their lives are hard, then they may not be there when yours is.
Many people worry about finding the right words to say when only three need to be said, "I am here," and if those words are too hard to say, simply reach out and hold a hand.
Your presence can mean the difference, even if you can only provide presence digitally.
Do you share their joy? When something good happens celebrate it.
You can celebrate achievements with a round of hugs or celebrate by complimenting them.
Too often people feel reserved in sharing their joys and successes because others become jealous or downplay the accomplishment.
It takes away from the beauty of the moment.
Are you trustworthy? Trustworthy does not just mean with things.
Trust is a cornerstone of a true friend and building a better relationship.
Your friends should be able to trust you to keep promises.
Your friends should feel like you will defend them against gossip and not talk bad when they are not there.
A true friend is someone whom you can trust with your things, your significant other, your emotions and your being.
Are you respectful? A true friend is respectful.
Treat friends as you want to be treated.
You do not want your friends changing you, so do not change them.
Respect them by being trustworthy.
Better friendships require being present with them in both joy and sorrow.
When times once again turn to joy celebrate.
Celebrate the joy and celebrate your true friends.
The friends who remain when the hardship is over are the ones who are your true friends.
If gone through a hardship and lost friends or you just want more friends you need to know keys to a better relationship and some understanding of friendships.
What happens to the friends who disappeared? The disappearing "friends" are not really friends, they may be there for what you provide when things are good.
They may be there to absorb your feelings of joy and happiness.
They may just not care as much about you as you do them.
Understand that for whatever reason they can not be there for you.
Decide if it worth that cost.
Can you change your friends? You can change who your friends are.
You can choose to keep the friends, change the amount of time you spend with them, distance yourself or end the friendship.
What you can not do is change the friend.
They are who they are.
Are you there in hardship? Almost everyone has times when life is hard.
It may be a loss of job, death of someone close, things not working or whatever that makes life difficult.
If you are not there for others when their lives are hard, then they may not be there when yours is.
Many people worry about finding the right words to say when only three need to be said, "I am here," and if those words are too hard to say, simply reach out and hold a hand.
Your presence can mean the difference, even if you can only provide presence digitally.
Do you share their joy? When something good happens celebrate it.
You can celebrate achievements with a round of hugs or celebrate by complimenting them.
Too often people feel reserved in sharing their joys and successes because others become jealous or downplay the accomplishment.
It takes away from the beauty of the moment.
Are you trustworthy? Trustworthy does not just mean with things.
Trust is a cornerstone of a true friend and building a better relationship.
Your friends should be able to trust you to keep promises.
Your friends should feel like you will defend them against gossip and not talk bad when they are not there.
A true friend is someone whom you can trust with your things, your significant other, your emotions and your being.
Are you respectful? A true friend is respectful.
Treat friends as you want to be treated.
You do not want your friends changing you, so do not change them.
Respect them by being trustworthy.
Better friendships require being present with them in both joy and sorrow.
When times once again turn to joy celebrate.
Celebrate the joy and celebrate your true friends.
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