As the world moves towards a more global society, we are seeing more and more cross cultural relationships.
Many older people say that these relationships will not work because it is unnatural, and sometimes this thinking affects a perfectly stable couple.
However, the thinking is not without justification.
There are some cultures that may be very difficult to understand or adapt to.
So to see if your cross cultural relationship has a shot of working, check out this short but important check list.
#1 Make Sure You Share Core Values Although it's easy to see why someone who thinks it's perfectly okay to take advantage of people won't last with someone who only wants to help people out, not all relationship core value differences will be this drastic.
What is important, however is that you do share the same values in terms of how to treat people, how to make and handle money, how to raise children, that honesty and integrity are important, etc.
Whatever it is you truly believe in and know you will never falter in believing have to be beliefs shared by this person.
(Note that these don't have to be religious beliefs.
) #2 Ask Yourself If You Can Live With It Even if your core values are the same ask if yourself if you can live with the differences you already see and possibly foresee.
There will definitely be differences in culture and certain practices, and being honest with yourself well ahead of time on whether or not you can live with those differences is important.
Try to discuss each other's cultures and get to know the other culture as much as you can via research.
Feel free to ask the person questions and be ready to answer questions asked of you.
Remember, the sooner you know whether or not you can live with it, the less chances you have of getting hurt.
#3 Do You Talk Often? Even couples of the same culture can have communication problems, and if you have communication problems early in the relationship, it can be a sign of difficulty to come.
However, if you talk often and are honest with your feelings and views with each other often, then this is a good sign.
Not only will it help you work out your problems, but it will also help you further understand the person and their culture.
Cross cultural relationships can most definitely work.
What is most important is that the two people who are in the relationship always keep open minds about new traditions and beliefs, as well as be understanding of each other.
If they can always put their love for each other before prejudice and pride and remember to always communicate their feelings clearly, then they have a great shot of making it work for the long haul!
Many older people say that these relationships will not work because it is unnatural, and sometimes this thinking affects a perfectly stable couple.
However, the thinking is not without justification.
There are some cultures that may be very difficult to understand or adapt to.
So to see if your cross cultural relationship has a shot of working, check out this short but important check list.
#1 Make Sure You Share Core Values Although it's easy to see why someone who thinks it's perfectly okay to take advantage of people won't last with someone who only wants to help people out, not all relationship core value differences will be this drastic.
What is important, however is that you do share the same values in terms of how to treat people, how to make and handle money, how to raise children, that honesty and integrity are important, etc.
Whatever it is you truly believe in and know you will never falter in believing have to be beliefs shared by this person.
(Note that these don't have to be religious beliefs.
) #2 Ask Yourself If You Can Live With It Even if your core values are the same ask if yourself if you can live with the differences you already see and possibly foresee.
There will definitely be differences in culture and certain practices, and being honest with yourself well ahead of time on whether or not you can live with those differences is important.
Try to discuss each other's cultures and get to know the other culture as much as you can via research.
Feel free to ask the person questions and be ready to answer questions asked of you.
Remember, the sooner you know whether or not you can live with it, the less chances you have of getting hurt.
#3 Do You Talk Often? Even couples of the same culture can have communication problems, and if you have communication problems early in the relationship, it can be a sign of difficulty to come.
However, if you talk often and are honest with your feelings and views with each other often, then this is a good sign.
Not only will it help you work out your problems, but it will also help you further understand the person and their culture.
Cross cultural relationships can most definitely work.
What is most important is that the two people who are in the relationship always keep open minds about new traditions and beliefs, as well as be understanding of each other.
If they can always put their love for each other before prejudice and pride and remember to always communicate their feelings clearly, then they have a great shot of making it work for the long haul!
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