Parents Be Aware!
What the parents say or how they express their reactions play a very significant role in making or marring the personality of their kids. When you use negative words or express your feelings with frowns on your face, your kids will feel insecure, belittled and useless about themselves, hurting their self respect and losing self-confidence. Using derogatory words on them may cripple their personality and even capability as shyness will overcome them.
Any words or statements about the children are considered negative which may:-
€ Degrade them
€ Hurt their self-respect
€ Lower their self-confidence
€ Make them feel incapable and useless
€ Sound ennobling to them
€ Indignify them
€ Spoil their taste about themselves
Negative approaches towards them inevitably repress their personality. A single word or action with offending tone creates distance between the parent and the child seriously damaging their relationship. The harsh words can become involuntary, delivered without bad intention; parents have to control their grumbling in order to maintain healthy and helpful relationships with their loved ones.
Boost up!
Instead of adopting repressive attitude, parents will feel happier if they boost up the kids' ego. Positive and appreciative comments will allow their egos inflate and float up; of course, it will/should not become undue flattery.
€ Parents should always praise their kids for what ever good deed they have done
€ Children must feel that they have value in the eyes of the parents/elders
€ They must be encouraged to face challenges without compromising on your right and duty to intervene
€ Be assured, if handled properly and with care they, with the passage of time, do develop and change
€ Never be nasty to the one whom you so dearly love
€ We, not they, are responsible for what we say to express our disapproval.
Attention and Commitment :-
It is very natural that children expect attention, love from their parents. It will be possible only when the parents give a bit of their precious time to their kids. Separated fathers ruin the innocent feelings of their children when it is their weekend €on€. On the other hand the working mothers when come home late, tired find it hard to resist pleas of their children for more attention. Mothers are obliged as an instinct of their nature, to bear the burden. They can at least sit for a while with them who might be watching TV, letting their bodies touch the bodies of the awaiting children, let them have the feeling of the warmth of the motherly affection, giving them a hug, having a light chat or appreciatively asking about their day time activities. Undoubtedly, the children flourish within an ordained framework of clear expectations for trust and commitment. They need to feel that some one is committed to them and that the same is consistently demonstrated. To have a child means a significant and demanding commitment; you have to sacrifice for it - restrict your freedom of action. Let your child feel that he/she can rely on you for his needs and wishes. Only then they would feel valued, otherwise bereft and alone; the child should always be happy with the way he/she is fed and clothed, proud of his life at home and at school. Monitoring behavior of the child requires commitment. Nevertheless, discipline and consistency go together. The child must be certain of his rights and responsibilities. Certainty ensures security and commitment comes from consistency.
What the parents say or how they express their reactions play a very significant role in making or marring the personality of their kids. When you use negative words or express your feelings with frowns on your face, your kids will feel insecure, belittled and useless about themselves, hurting their self respect and losing self-confidence. Using derogatory words on them may cripple their personality and even capability as shyness will overcome them.
Any words or statements about the children are considered negative which may:-
€ Degrade them
€ Hurt their self-respect
€ Lower their self-confidence
€ Make them feel incapable and useless
€ Sound ennobling to them
€ Indignify them
€ Spoil their taste about themselves
Negative approaches towards them inevitably repress their personality. A single word or action with offending tone creates distance between the parent and the child seriously damaging their relationship. The harsh words can become involuntary, delivered without bad intention; parents have to control their grumbling in order to maintain healthy and helpful relationships with their loved ones.
Boost up!
Instead of adopting repressive attitude, parents will feel happier if they boost up the kids' ego. Positive and appreciative comments will allow their egos inflate and float up; of course, it will/should not become undue flattery.
€ Parents should always praise their kids for what ever good deed they have done
€ Children must feel that they have value in the eyes of the parents/elders
€ They must be encouraged to face challenges without compromising on your right and duty to intervene
€ Be assured, if handled properly and with care they, with the passage of time, do develop and change
€ Never be nasty to the one whom you so dearly love
€ We, not they, are responsible for what we say to express our disapproval.
Attention and Commitment :-
It is very natural that children expect attention, love from their parents. It will be possible only when the parents give a bit of their precious time to their kids. Separated fathers ruin the innocent feelings of their children when it is their weekend €on€. On the other hand the working mothers when come home late, tired find it hard to resist pleas of their children for more attention. Mothers are obliged as an instinct of their nature, to bear the burden. They can at least sit for a while with them who might be watching TV, letting their bodies touch the bodies of the awaiting children, let them have the feeling of the warmth of the motherly affection, giving them a hug, having a light chat or appreciatively asking about their day time activities. Undoubtedly, the children flourish within an ordained framework of clear expectations for trust and commitment. They need to feel that some one is committed to them and that the same is consistently demonstrated. To have a child means a significant and demanding commitment; you have to sacrifice for it - restrict your freedom of action. Let your child feel that he/she can rely on you for his needs and wishes. Only then they would feel valued, otherwise bereft and alone; the child should always be happy with the way he/she is fed and clothed, proud of his life at home and at school. Monitoring behavior of the child requires commitment. Nevertheless, discipline and consistency go together. The child must be certain of his rights and responsibilities. Certainty ensures security and commitment comes from consistency.
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