Rage is not only the strongest emotion there is but it is also one of the worst forms of crippling pain..
When present, it dominates both the activities and the direction of every developmental stage during the formative years.
Just as no-one can work while in severe physical pain, a child cannot conduct the "work" of development when crippled by this type ofpain on the inside.
Rage not only retards growth but can literally arrest development.
Anger, the extreme form of which is rage, is unlike other emotions in that it must be directed to the person who caused it in order for it to discharge permanently.
It is obvious that physical pain is a benefit to the body in that it protects against further injury or a worsening of the cause.
Pain is a warning signal that something must be done, that an injury has occurred and that the body is in danger.
So it is with the pain of anger: It is a warning that our personhood is in danger or that it has already been injured, that something must be done to restore its previous health.
Anger, or rage, is a form of pain as necessary as physical pain.
When we are insulted, humiliated, treated with contempt, or dealt with unfairly or outrageously, we feel the pain of anger just as unavoidably as we would feel physical pain in case of a bodily injury.
While anger can be expressed in any number of ways, it cannot be discharged unless directly aimed at the offender.
Herein is the reason why the popular anger-management classes of today are not only ineffective but harmful.
They result in the client's holding down and further suppressing the very pain that is so necessary.
The pain is increased rather than used in a constructive way to build the self.
However, if the offended one goes to the person who caused the pain and simply states that the action or words hurt and that he will not tolerate such an injury again, the anger (or rage) leaves, never to return.
Note that the client is not required to hurt the offender but only to object.
Even when the offender is deceased, this vital task must still be accomplished.
The afflicted one need only to talk to the deceased as though still alive and believe that the offender does hear.
Sometimes writing a letter to a dead abuser can be effective, and the same method can be used for others who for some reason cannot be reached.
Even in cases where a victim dare not contact an assailant, as in criminal cases, a letter can be written but never mailed.
The healing effect is much the same as a one-on-one interaction.
Even more effective is voicing one's feelings into a tape recorder, without any censorship whatsoever.
At a later time it can be decided whether to send the recording.
Anger is not something to be expressed.
It is a force to be discharged in the only healthy way.
When present, it dominates both the activities and the direction of every developmental stage during the formative years.
Just as no-one can work while in severe physical pain, a child cannot conduct the "work" of development when crippled by this type ofpain on the inside.
Rage not only retards growth but can literally arrest development.
Anger, the extreme form of which is rage, is unlike other emotions in that it must be directed to the person who caused it in order for it to discharge permanently.
It is obvious that physical pain is a benefit to the body in that it protects against further injury or a worsening of the cause.
Pain is a warning signal that something must be done, that an injury has occurred and that the body is in danger.
So it is with the pain of anger: It is a warning that our personhood is in danger or that it has already been injured, that something must be done to restore its previous health.
Anger, or rage, is a form of pain as necessary as physical pain.
When we are insulted, humiliated, treated with contempt, or dealt with unfairly or outrageously, we feel the pain of anger just as unavoidably as we would feel physical pain in case of a bodily injury.
While anger can be expressed in any number of ways, it cannot be discharged unless directly aimed at the offender.
Herein is the reason why the popular anger-management classes of today are not only ineffective but harmful.
They result in the client's holding down and further suppressing the very pain that is so necessary.
The pain is increased rather than used in a constructive way to build the self.
However, if the offended one goes to the person who caused the pain and simply states that the action or words hurt and that he will not tolerate such an injury again, the anger (or rage) leaves, never to return.
Note that the client is not required to hurt the offender but only to object.
Even when the offender is deceased, this vital task must still be accomplished.
The afflicted one need only to talk to the deceased as though still alive and believe that the offender does hear.
Sometimes writing a letter to a dead abuser can be effective, and the same method can be used for others who for some reason cannot be reached.
Even in cases where a victim dare not contact an assailant, as in criminal cases, a letter can be written but never mailed.
The healing effect is much the same as a one-on-one interaction.
Even more effective is voicing one's feelings into a tape recorder, without any censorship whatsoever.
At a later time it can be decided whether to send the recording.
Anger is not something to be expressed.
It is a force to be discharged in the only healthy way.
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